I feel like in a lot of shows where the woman is in charge the woman is this ball buster and the guy is sort of weak and spineless. And that's never been my experience in a relationship. I think it's much more interesting that the guy is the boss. And there are stakes.
One thing I have learned in my time in politics is that if one of the parties is shameless the other party cannot afford to be spineless.
I think the enemy is self-censorship. In a free society the biggest danger is that you're afraid to the point where you censor yourself.