If a person is homosexual by nature - that is if one's sexuality is as intrinsic a part of one's identity as gender or skin color - then society can no more deny a gay person access to the secular rights and religious sacraments because of his homosexuality than it can reinstate Jim Crow.
I've never looked forward to a birthday like I'm looking forward to my new daughter's birthday because two days after that is when I can apply for reinstatement.
The one thing that kept our family together was the music. The only thing that our family would share emotionally was to have our dad cry over something the kids did with music.