Across the country military families are facing dire financial circumstances due to longer than expected tours of duties. They are being penalized for their patriotism - no one should have to choose between doing right by their country and doing right by their families.
Baseball players are smarter than football players. How often do you see a baseball team penalized for too many men on the field?
No one is guaranteed happiness. You can pursue it but if you happen to find success along the way on that road to happiness Conservatives believe you should not be demonized or penalized for it.
I think human society for tens of thousands of years has sent young men out in small groups to do things that are necessary but very dangerous. And they've always gotten killed doing it. And they've always turned it into a matter of honor and a way of gaining acceptance back into society if they survived.