It appears that the media filters we carry in our heads are like computers: they've been forced to get faster in order to keep up with the demands our high-speed society puts on them.
The only way you can have it all is by delegating all the running of the home to other people - which I don't ever want to do... So you do it yourself and it takes time and energy and effort. And if you give it the time it's profoundly enjoyable.