To pass from estrangement from God to be a son of God is the basic fact of conversion. That altered relationship with God gives you an altered relationship with yourself with your brother man with nature with the universe.
It must be remembered that the sea is a great breeder of friendship. Two men who have known each other for twenty years find that twenty days at sea bring them nearer than ever they were before or else estrange them.
I can't say it's not painful being estranged from most of my family. I wish it could be otherwise.
Too often older women are seen as victims but I know lots of formidable women who have marvellous jobs as well as a full erotic life and children and friends and family.