But curb thou the high spirit in thy breast for gentle ways are best and keep aloof from sharp contentions.
There are no contests in the Art of Peace. A true warrior is invincible because he or she contests with nothing. Defeat means to defeat the mind of contention that we harbor within.
I don't think nationalism is alone holding the field it's in contention with a lot of different things.
If you're lucky like me your relationship with your brother has resolved itself on the peaceful side of the fence and has stayed there. But if you're someone who's got a family that's all fractured and finding it hard to relate that's a very sad place to be.