Normal is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for in order to get to a job that you need so you can pay for the clothes car and the house that you leave empty all day in order to afford to live in it.
I believe that we must reach our brother never toning down our fundamental oppositions but meeting him when he asks to be met with a reason for the faith that is in us as well as with a loving sympathy for them as brothers.