Because society places a value on masculinity gay men aspire to it. If you go to a gay club and the doorman says 'You do realise this is a gay club don't you lads?' you get all excited because you think 'Wow he thought I was straight!'
My ambition was to stop waiting tables. That was how I measured success:...
The whole system of society tells you what to do.
The quality of a leader is reflected in the standards they set for themselves.