The first few weeks of being a mom were profound not just emotionally but also physically. All the changes you instinctually go through are miraculous.
First accept sadness. Realize that without losing winning isn't so great.
My mom is in the navy and my dad works for the army but I never called them...
When we can lay down our fear and anger and choose responses other than aggression we create the conditions for bringing out the best in us humans.