There isn't any formula or method. You learn to love by loving - by paying attention and doing what one thereby discovers has to be done.
People intoxicate themselves with work so they won't see how they really are.
At the end of the day you know love does not happen between two perfect...
I wake up some mornings and sit and have my coffee and look out at my beautiful garden and I go 'Remember how good this is. Because you can lose it.'