We always deceive ourselves twice about the people we love - first to their advantage then to their disadvantage.
The myth of unlimited production brings war in its train as inevitably as...
At the end of the day you know love does not happen between two perfect...
Instead of yelling and spanking which don't work anyway I believe in finding creative ways to keep their attention - turning things into a game for instance. And when they do something good positive reinforcement and praise.