As selfishness and complaint pervert the mind so love with its joy clears and sharpens the vision.
My share of the work may be limited but the fact that it is work makes it...
At the end of the day you know love does not happen between two perfect...
If you cannot work on the marriage or the women is a moron staying married and cheating makes the most sense because divorce is disruptive to the family life and your bank account.