Joy is a net of love by which you can catch souls.
The miracle is not that we do this work but that we are happy to do it.
At the end of the day you know love does not happen between two perfect...
The only way you can have it all is by delegating all the running of the home to other people - which I don't ever want to do... So you do it yourself and it takes time and energy and effort. And if you give it the time it's profoundly enjoyable.