The ability to take pleasure in one's life is a skill and is a kind of intelligence. So intelligence is a hard thing to evaluate and it manifests itself in so many different ways. I do think the ability to know how to live a life and not be miserable is a sign of that.
I think somehow men understand other men's need for respect differently than they understand it for a woman. I'm disappointed to have to say that but I think it's undeniably true.
