When you are kind to someone in trouble you hope they'll remember and be kind to someone else. And it'll become like a wildfire.
I think the idea that you know who your inner self is on a daily basis...
If you've never felt that you quite got a hold of it you just feel that...
At best the family teaches the finest things human beings can learn from one another generosity and love. But it is also all too often where we learn nasty things like hate rage and shame.