The only way you can have it all is by delegating all the running of the home to other people - which I don't ever want to do... So you do it yourself and it takes time and energy and effort. And if you give it the time it's profoundly enjoyable.
I have seen doctors in good faith leave patients on steroids for years thinking they are doing right. A friend of mine was on steroids for so long she has severe osteoporosis.
