If you hug to yourself any resentment against anybody else you destroy the bridge by which God would come to you.
When we long for life without difficulties remind us that oaks grow strong...
Discernment is God's call to intercession never to faultfinding.
Men are fair and they have learned not to personalize anger - they can disagree with you and argue to the bone but afterward they still consider you a nice person with whom the underlying human relationship need not be altered.