God made man to go by motives and he will not go without them any more than a boat without steam or a balloon without gas.
Pride slays thanksgiving but a humble mind is the soil out of which thanks...
Discernment is God's call to intercession never to faultfinding.
I don't think there's anything more important than making peace before it's too late. And it almost always falls to the child to try to move toward the parent.