My wife a schoolteacher very disciplined. If you think I'm tough trust me and wait till you see when the children are on the naughty step. It's hilarious. So we decided that I'm going to work like a donkey and provide amazing support for the family.
I went nearly 30 years without being able to really seriously entertain marriage or a family. In fact the word 'marriage' would actually give me a shake when it was brought up.