My family frankly they weren't folks who went to church every week. My mother was one of the most spiritual people I knew but she didn't raise me in the church so I came to my Christian faith later in life and it was because the precepts of Jesus Christ spoke to me in terms of the kind of life that I would want to lead.
The real act of marriage takes place in the heart not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day but over and over again - and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.